'You're Buttaz Anyway!'

Picture this. Pretty girl is walking down the road, nice figure, nice skin complexion, nice vibe, nice style. Minding her OWN business. On the way to her final destination. Lovely day it is for her really. Oh..but wait [sigh]. There's a guy lurking about. Obviously has nothing else to do with his time..but to 'jam' on road, waiting for someone to prey on. He now sees this pretty girl walking by, by herself, again, minding her own business. But 'guy' thinks he should go and disturb her...why? What's his agenda? Remember HE decided to approach HER, who was by the way...MINDING HER OWN BUSINESS! So OK, he starts to approach her:
GUY: Oi, Excuse Me, Can I Talk To You For A Minute?
GIRL: [Continues Walking] I'm Kinda In A Hurry And I Don't Really Talk To Strangers!
GUY: Lemme Just Talk To You For ONE Minute! [Trying To Catch Up With Girl]
GIRL: Could You Just Leave Me Alone Please!
GUY: KMT! Whatever Man!...YOU'RE BUTTAZ ANYWAY! [Walks Away, Cursing..]

Erm, yeah I guess the majority of you girls don't really have to TRY and picture that scene, because it's probably happened to you before! If it hasn't then i think you get the drift of the scene. OK, First off, i'm not trying to 'boy' any guy out there. I mean not all guys are like that. By 'THAT', I mean a 'sore-loser'! A bit harsh, but sometimes you gotta be cruel to be nice ! Before I tell you what i mean...what exactly is the meaning of 'Buttaz'? Two definitions that I found on the web were:

1. http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/butters : British slang for unattractive, ugly or repulsive.
...Wow, REPULSIVE you know...I though I was harsh.



2. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20081210124625AA2wM1x : It comes from 'she really has a great body, but her face is ugly'...
...That's half compliment, half RUDE!




So from those two definitions off the web, you can see that it mainly means ugly. But in the real world, if you decide someone is ugly...that usually means you don't find them attractive, right? So from that little scene I created at the top, when I highlighted that the GUY approached the GIRL, in this situation, he was approaching her with the intention, the motive to try and get her number, to try and chat her up [which I've talked about before- see previous posts before]. So therefore, he obviously thought this girl was 'pretty', maybe even beautiful, for him to try and get her number. And I don't want you to think that i think you're stupid, but isn't pretty the opposite of 'ugly'? I just want you to see my point here. AND Just to remind you, the girl WAS minding her own business! So it annoys me when the girl practically shows no interest, and the guy replies with 'YOU'RE BUTTAZ ANYWAY!' Gosh, is it by force that she likes you?! It is NOT her fault that she does not find you attractive, it is not her fault that you are not her type, and I think she made that very clear to you when she didn't stop and continued minding her own business. So why do you have to be a sore-loser and spit lies to her saying she's buttaz anyway? If she was buttaz ANYWAY [meaning 'in the first place' 'from when you set eyes on her', WHY DID YOU APPROACH HER, asking to talk to her? I mean you're confusing yourself really. I think guys who save themselves with these 4 words are insecure: unconfident, uncertain, defenseless, vulnerable... In my words, they feel like they've just been shut down! They weren't expecting such a turn-out. They thought they'd be successful in their mission,but unfortunately their mission failed. So they're probably in shock and maybe 'upset' aww. So their ONLY defence is to take it out on the girl, making it seem like shes the problem anyway, like the girl tried it, but really you tried it! And failed miserably..harsh...I KNOW!

But hey, it's not the end of the world...at the end of the day, that girl you called buttaz WILL continue with her life, like you never existed in the first place...and you'll still be beating yourself up. But you've got to realise that:
1] Just because a girl turns you down...doesn't mean you should get angry, you're just not her type
2] There ARE other girls out there that may find you attractive
3] Maybe your approach ain't right e.g. approaching the girl from the roadside, makes you look a little 'waste'
4] MANNERS! Approach them politely and don't get all in their faces. You know, a HELLO and HOW ARE YOU? won't go amiss, with a nice smile [especially if you've got dimples.. UTILISE them! =]
5] You've got to treat them like the lady they are and if you fail, then just move on in life...don't curse at them, shouting obscenities and lies, it just makes you look 'sorry'!
6] If you DO approach them politely and what not and the girl replies harshly and un-ladylike, then she wasn't worth your time, because she's only interested in herself and you won't get anywhere with that! Trust me!

So guys, them 4 words aren't necessary, especially when its a lie! Don't be a cry baby...be a wise man! Walk away, Move on and Try harder!