Black Girl Syndrome [BGS]

I apologise, but this issue right here makes my blood boil! OK so just to make it clear; this is NOT a racial post, its just I've only noticed it amongst these ones! But if you as a girl can relate, then alright cooool! So what am I even on about huh? I'm talking about the Black Girl Syndrome [BGS]. But what does this entail you ask? Well let's get into it shall we..

So, for me personally, I've noticed something strange amongst black girls... OK, so maybe I'm walking down the road with my fellow girls that I normally hang with, you know just minding our own business, having a good time in life. Strolling and just having a laugh with each other. On our walk down the road, obviously we ain't the only ones to pass through, we're passing all sorts of people, from different backgrounds, different ages, different occupations, different genders, different relationships, and its all good in the hood, no beef [no arguements or fights] EVERYONE is just going on about their business really on a normal day. Oh but then, like me, and my two other girls, we happen to pass by three other black girls, who look roughly the same age as us, maybe one or two share the same background as us, who knows? They were probably going on about their business too like we were, you know just a normal average day for each of us. So while we are passing each other, its like we end up in slow motion. What starts of this slow motion? The LOOK...The PIC [Pause In Conversation]...The MUMBLES N WHISPERS...That AWKWARD MOMENT! These FOUR elements make up the Black Girl Syndrome! And don't forget people, we were passing each other by, that takes what, like 3 or 4 seconds maybe? Let's just sat a LOT of things can happen in those few seconds!

So basically, I'm baffled as to why Black girls like to intimidate each other with a few gestures that look spiteful? WHY? Why must there be competition, why must there be hate, why must there be sly beef? The look consists of a facial expression that either says 'even though I just met you, I just don't like you' or 'I'm the best thing that ever happened to mankind..who are you though?' or 'I think I'm high and above, and you're just not in my league' or sometimes the girl can be mistaken 'I swear she just screwed me??' ERM maybe I had something in my eye... The PIC is basically self-explanatory; it actually links in with the awkward moment or rather creates the awkward moment. Both groups are talking and all of a sudden in the pass-by, everyone's comments come to a halt. It comes to a halt from their mouths, but in reality, a new conversation starts in each girls minds; they are building a portfolio of what they see and think of each other, so that when the pass-by is finished, they can then feedback to their girls what they witnessed. It's pretty ridiculous and contagious and this is why it is the Black Girl Syndrome. The Mumbles n Whispers, are just the thoughts that can't wait for the pass-by to finish and the element that makes it obvious that you're being assessed and talked about.

But what causes this BGS? My answer: I DON'T KNOW. I think Black girls are just on guard every time, before someone else can cuss me, they need to know that I'm ready for them kinda thing. It's like a silent battle...'You don't know about me!' But it's completely and utterly STUPID. We don't know each other, YET you feel the need to hate me and try and intimidate me? This is one reason why people get hurt, because UNNECESSARY beef is created through intimidation and unreasonable hate. Come on girls, I really don't know why we all can't get along. Why must we fight quietly? Some of you reading this might be thinking 'what is she talking about? I'm not like that and I don't see it..' but in reality, hun it does actually happen!

Especially, if we are in different crowds. There's the bate ones; the ones who seem popular, because they are everywhere, loud and seem to know EVERYONE! Then there's the ones who keep to themselves, so seem a bit anti-social, but really just like to be reserved. Everyone has their own character. Don't pick it up as a weapon against you, that's just the way they are, maybe its high time you accepted it and not use your OWN character as intimidation. There'll be peace of mind if everyone just accepts people the way they are. This BGS thing is especially not good for girls who have low self-esteem and are just very self-conscious. Once they get that BGS vibe, that person just feels more low about themselves than usual. It changes ones perception about themselves and this limits progression in life. It's not a good look.

So, basically, and in fact its a message to ALL girls, don't make quick judgements about each other, stop trying to intimidate each other, stop thinking you're prettier and she's ugly, because we were all created in God's image, and God created each and every one of us beautifully and wonderfully. No man is better than any other man. Let's be civil with one another, 'smile!' at each other and get rid of this nonsensical Black Girl Syndrome!