Chip & Pin It!

OK OK So I was quite inspired today by a lovely friend of mine [don't know if she wants me to mention her name], but I will expand on what we were discussing today, when we suddenly bumped into each other...We had a lovely and deep conversation about men and women and how men should pursue women and how to keep them interested. This isn't a dig at guys, don't get me wrong, but it is to uplift ladies an for them to know their worth. IT'S ALWAYS IMPORTANT FOR A WOMAN TO KNOW HER WORTH! Again, I'm sorry but I love the lyric in Fantasia's song 'Doin' Me' when she says 'If you can't love me equally, then you don't need to be with me'! It's very true. If you want something, obviously you're going to do all you can to get it...am I right? I mean if you really really want it, you would not back down and you will make as much effort just to achieve it! You won't settle for less. In fact, no one should; women AND men, you must NEVER feel you don't deserve something good; GREAT even. No one must feel belittled and no one must feel they can never achieve something great! We all look for love at some point in our lives, but some of us go about it the wrong way, and some of us look in the wrong places. Moreover, some of us take a diversion , another route that they feel will take them to that destination of love; that love they've been wanting for a long time. But really and truly in life if you have PATIENCE, POSITIVITY and PERSEVERANCE, you will know that what you are searching for will come to you in due time and it will come in abundance and know that it is worth it!

Slightly going off track there, however it is important to know you are worth much more than you think you are! So don't settle for less. Ladies, please don't allow guys to disrespect you and of course vice versa, but for my ladies [as this was in discussion today, I will write another post about how guys should be treated too in due time] but for my ladies, if a guy wants your love, don't let him easily take it, like its the first packet of crisp on the shelf within reach...let him stretch his arm and earn it! I know guys must be despising me right now, but honestly, go for a challenge...at the end of the day it will be worth it. Obtaining a woman's heart should not be difficult, but it should not be too easy either, if it's easy, there's a problem...she may just be settling for whatever comes her way, after all she might have the mentality of 'beggars can't be choosers', and I'm sure no one wants that kind of mentality. It might be that she doesn't feel highly of herself [not in a pompous way], but in a way that she does not realise her worth. It's up to you guys to woo her, make her feel loved, get her to see that she deserves the best, that you love her and appreciate her, you respect her and you will never hurt her. Get her to see that her love is worth it and much more! If you want the heart of a woman, you must work for it. Because in the words of R Kelly 'When a woman loves, she loves for real', that isn't an opinion...it's a FACT. Therefore, guys if you want that woman that you're pursuing...chip and pin it babe! No, I don't mean BUY her love...JLo and Christina Milian demonstrated that 'love don't cost a thing', but this term was used by my friend today through an example she told me in which I experienced. I basically was asked out; this was a few years ago; just after college, and I agreed to go out with this guy. So we went to the cinema [typical I know], and when it came to paying for our cinema tickets, the guy asked to buy ONE ticket...for himself and motioned for me to now pay for mine. Ok, now, this guy asked ME out, and I already knew he liked me, so obviously you're going to want to get to know me and please me, because you pursued me, I never pursued you, if you want to be successful in your agenda...do it right! Clearly, I was a little thrown off and disappointed that I had to pay for my own ticket, but I concluded that obviously this guy was not serious...this was our first date on which YOU asked me out, I think you should at least try and make an effort and you know offer to pay. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to sound like a golddigger, that I AM NOT! This was just to show how the phrase chip and pin it came across. If you want something, but it's not within your reach, obviously there's a process you have to go through to get it. This process is the transaction. This transaction is the process by which you need to work hard and earn that beautiful lady's love. If you are pursuing something, clearly you saw something in it that interested you, that caught your attention, that made you say 'I want that', so work hard to achieve it. Like university students have to work real hard to achieve that glorious degree; their hard work and awarded grades is their transaction in achieving this degree!

Show her that you mean well, that you know her love is precious and not to be tampered with; this also shows you're a man that loves a challenge; a very determined guy, a guy who is serious and not in the mood to be playing games, when you want something, you work hard to achieve it, you mean business and you're willing to treat her like the Queen she is. Women aren't objects, they are humans with feelings and no woman wants to feel like they are easy. And ladies you also have a role to play, in that you need to know your worth, you need to know that you are above and not beneath and you must not allow anyone to belittle you, be like Fantasia 'Do you, and know exactly what you deserve'. Smile and carry yourself well...don't settle for less, you're better than that...believe me.

So guys you know what to do...chip & pin it :)