Heart Attack!

No, no...not literally! But the majority of us DO love attacking our hearts EMOTIONALLY. A lot of artists have sung about being 'heart broken', for example T2 ft. Jodie 'Heart broken'...[without your love], Beyonce [I don't wanna play the] 'Broken-Hearted Girl, Alicia Keys [Have you ever tried] 'Sleeping With A Broken Heart' or even Tyrese [How you gonna up and leave me now] 'How You Gonna Act Like That', Mario 'How Could You'...[Let somebody lay where I lay]...Yes, guys hearts' get attacked too; we're all humans that are bound to get hurt in some kind of way. Please don't see this post as trying to depress you, but for you to see that being heart broken or in my words, getting an emotional 'heart attack', is normal, it's a phase you go through, a time for you to sulk and hate the other sex, but at the end of the day, whilst you're crying yourself to sleep, or being bitter towards everything, life is pretty much going on without you. Time waits for no man. There is a time to mourn, and a time to rejoice; the Bible says. Yes cry it out, but then live it up, make something of yourself, learn from your mistakes and don't allow your heart to get trodden on ever again. 'There's plenty more fish in the sea' they say. This is true BUT there's a reason why I said the majority of US love attacking OUR hearts, meaning WE create the weapon for the attack! There's plenty more fish in the sea...it does not mean you must lend your heart to every Tom, Dick and Harry in the world or for a guy, to every Tanya, Danielle and Hailey that comes your way! NO. Not every person you come across has your heart's criteria ticked, in fact it's all crosses; you're not compatible. We love to take chances with our heart and we forget that our heart is delicate, it can be easily broken [emotionally], and we need to just take our time, stop chasing and let love approach us. I mean, what is the rush anyway? Do you NEED a partner or do you WANT a partner...two different things! I know some people make out for it to look like having a boyfriend or girlfriend is a NECESSITY and okay fine, having someone there can feel nice, but make sure that nice is long-term and trustworthy...and serious. Don't put yourself in the position of the bit on the side, or friend with benefits, or 'part of the list', just because you want someone 'there'. These positions are not forever, and you are demeaning yourself and simply it's ridiculous; you're basically handing over your heart with a gun! Fantasia said it right in her song 'If you can't love me equally, then you don't need to be with me, nothing more beautiful than knowing your worth, and finally I know exactly what I deserve'..

Do not get into a relationship so quickly, take it easy for goodness sake. You need to get to know this person first. Research his/her character, pray about it, put God first, his reasoning is the BEST. If you jump into this relationship, without your head; meaning you haven't thought it through; there's a 90% risk of an emotional heart attack. OK so the person seems loving, they act like they adore you, it seems they'll do anything for you, you think you've found your ideal partner...did you not think this with the last person you came across? And the person before that...and the person before that? You need to safe guard your heart and not open it to infectious situations. That's why we're told by doctors and health experts, to eat healthily, so that we can live long and have a healthy and happy body. If you can take care of your body physically, take care of it emotionally. Don't give your heart to selfish individuals, to untrustworthy individuals, to individuals who don't even know what love is. If you have to play the 'guessing game' with this person 'oh someday we might get together...or maybe not, but who knows', you're wasting your time, because while you're jumping in and out of that game, the person you're meant to be with has passed you by.

But fine, getting heart broken happens, we're not all perfect, situations like this happens in life, and they happen, so that we can grow from them; you learn and live, you get stronger, you know what to do and what not to do next time. When you're heart broken, T2 ft Jodie says in their song 'when you left you took my heart'...erm no, they did not take your heart, they just played with it for a bit, got bored and dropped it like a child grows out of their toys. You still have your heart though, it may be tampered with, but like a cut, it heals up after some time and everything is OK. Yes you will feel like rubbish, like there's nothing left for you, like your plans have gone down the drain, trust me I know the feeling; it took me quite some time to get over my ex, but I did, it wasn't the end of my life, it was the end of that era and I had to move on; its hard, but it's not impossible.

Avoid an emotional heart attack, don't be led by your eyes, be led by your heart.