No More Limelight!

So, a person you've discovered happens to take interest in you all of a sudden, but you think nothing of it, because you definitely do not feel the same way. BUT then as time goes by, this attraction the person has towards you is growing each day. You find that they keep calling you, texting you, PINGing you, skyping you and clicking 'LIKE' on your photos on Facebook...and then finally they admit to liking you [as if that wasn't quite obvious]; from when you're getting 30 notifications on Facebook that ALWAYS without fail include his/her name. Seems like stalkerage doesn't it? And you find that it gets really irritating and full on and you just can't hack the fatal attraction any more. HOWEVER, deep down and be honest to yourself you're loving the attention #FACT. How do I know you're loving the attention? Because if you didn't want to be bothered any more and was completely not interested in anything the person had to offer; instead of you putting up with the constant hollering, you would tell that person straight-up...I DON'T LIKE YOU. NEVER DID. NEVER WILL. LEAVE ME BE. OK, so not in a rude and blunt manner, but you let them know in a gentle and kind yet clear message that you do not feel the same way and they shouldn't really waste their time. If you do not do this straight away or at all, it means you're LOVING the attention, your basking in the LIMELIGHT! You're loving the fact that this person has nothing else to do with their time, but to spend it on you and you only. You're loving the compliments, the kind gestures, the fact that you're their type, the fact that they can't leave you alone, because they are oh so in love with you. And you feel like a princess, you feel loved, YOU ARE LOVING THE LIMELIGHT. Whilst you're cussing them behind their back and getting 'angry', because they're are blowing up your phone, deep down, the attention is getting to your head. You don't love them, but you love the attention. Meanwhile, you don't realise that you're wasting their time, their effort, their love, because you are giving them the impression that they might have a chance with you, that the only reason you're not giving them the time of day, is because you're not ready for anything...but you will be later, and they should have patience. THAT is how they are interpreting the situation and so they do the best they can to win you over faster because they love you that much. You're basically being selfish and inconsiderate.

BUT it gets to a point where a person gets impatient. We all do after some time. Patience is a virtue, but impatience is inevitable; especially in this situation. This person may have a lot of time on their hands, but they are not stupid. After a while they'll figure out that nothing is going to happen, the situation remains the same from day to day, there hasn't been any improvement, it has been a long time and as much as they are giving you the time of day, the time is wasted by night and it's an occurring cycle. Sooo, this person eventually gives up. He or she decides to embark on another journey, a journey where his or her time and effort will be very much appreciated. Like Bow Wow and Chris Brown, he or she 'Ain't thinking about you TONIGHT!' A day goes by and you think nothing of it, a week goes by and you're concerned. A week and a few days go by and you're wondering WHY ON EARTH THIS PERSON HASN'T CALLED YOU? What's going on you think? Is it something you said? Something you did? Did he or she travel? Or did they lose your number? Or is your phone not working. But then your notifications on Facebook have decreased and you're only getting 1 or 2 from unwanted event invitations. Your concern blatantly shows when you for example send him or her a random text... 'Hey, how are you? [smiley face]' and maybe a few hours later you get a reply from that person with 'I'm kool, u?'...THAT'S IT? [That's what you're thinking right?] No more 'babes', no more 'I miss you' no more 'Lets hang out' no more 'You're looking good!' on any of your photos...the hype has died out...

YOU'RE NO MORE IN THE LIMELIGHT! So you've clocked. And it pretty much sucks. You don't have someone falling at your feet any more, this person has decided to spend his or her time elsewhere, no longer interested in trying to achieve your love, the buzz just isn't there any more and so this kind off bugs you a lot. You were loving off the attention and now you're craving it. You miss this person and you realise they meant well, that they had your interest at heart, that they would have been so good to you if you gave them the time of day! Did you seriously think they would spend the rest of their lives pining after you? While you ignored them..did you really think they enjoyed being at a 'stand still', while you moved on with your life, probably chasing after someone else? No. It doesn't work like that. In this case the statement 'You can't have your cake and eat it too' makes a lot of sense. Not everything is about you, you can't treat other people to the advantage of yourself, to make yourself feel better, to feel good. You can't drop someone and pick them up whenever you feel like it, because now YOU ARE ready. Not everything is on your terms! Believe it or not. The world does not revolve around you. Stop being selfish, stop hugging up the limelight. Don't lead people on and make them follow you like some lost little sheep. Be honest from day 1 and consider other people's feelings. Don't expect people to run to you when you click your fingers, it really doesn't work like that :)