Make-Up Bag.

A woman is a lot of things. We have different characters, yet we have the same title 'WOMAN' and for what it stands for, we females share. Some of us our short (like me), some of us are tall, some of us are skinny, some of us are curvy, some of us have long hair and some of us have short hair, or even none, but no matter what shape or size or accessories we come with; we are still a woman and that is of importance. Some men are stuck in the past and believe that because we are Women, we must be inferior to them, we are below them and of unimportance. Erm no. We are of equal importance, as God created us all in his image. We are the same, but just a different version, if that makes sense to you. We just contain qualities that a man finds hard to hold down. These qualities are what makes up a WOman, minus these qualities and we are just like a man.

Some women, however, allow a man to dictate how they should look like, how they should act, how they should move, how they should talk, just so that it fits their criteria for their satisfaction. The 'Make-Up Bag' has been handed to them without their realisation. They pretend to be someone else that they are not. This Make-Up Bag is symbolic, I'm not talking about the real make-up us ladies wear in front of the mirror, but the title itself. We must not be made to feel that we should change ourselves, so that he is happy. If he's not happy with the way you really are, he really isn't worth your time, and he's definitely silly for not loving you the way you are. 'Take me as I am'. That's the mentality you should adopt. If they cannot, it is their loss and not yours.They end up loving a 'mask' instead of the real person, and they miss the real love that this woman can offer them. They're busy looking for 'perfection', when in reality, nobody is perfect but God. What these guys need to realise, is that what they really need is standing right in front of them, naked, baring all (not literally guys), but because they are blinded by these MTV perceptions of how a woman must look, they dismiss them, a real treasure. This is why I love this quote of whom I actually don't know wrote, but they said: 'One day you're going to want that specific girl who wasn't perfect, but tried to be for you the girl who wanted nothing more than to love you, the girl who sees your flaws but values them, the girl who can't bring herself to hate you, even though you probably deserve it...who realised that she may never have your heart, but will carry the image of you...forever and when you realise that's the girl you're looking for, she'll be with the guy who already knew'

That quote is SO VERY TRUE and I LOVE it! Because some guys don't realise what gift has been landed in front of them and how much worth they are. Instead, they ask for a refund or exchange for something less meaningful. It's a shame. A woman's love needs to be appreciated, because as R Kelly said it and like I've mentioned before, 'When a woman loves, she loves for real'. A woman loves with all her heart, she's very emotional and passionate about the things and people that she loves. In Steve Harvey's book 'Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man', he described a woman's love as 'kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you've acted out, no matter what crazy thing you've done, no matter the time or demand...encourage you when you're at rock bottom and think there just isn't any way out, hold you in her arms when you're sick...that's a woman's love - it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance.', I shortened the description, but the full description is on page 19-20 of his book. So as you can see, a woman's love is to be cherished, and her as a woman should be respected...not handed the Make-up bag for adjustments. She was carved perfectly, ain't no need for adjustments.

For me I've defined a woman as WARM, OPEN-MINDED, MOTHERLY, ATTENTIVE and NOBLE. These qualities are what my Mum possessed; God rest her soul and I truly love her for that. She is Warm, as in the sense, her company is always comforting, positive, and affectionate, like you'd wear jumpers and coats in the winter time to keep you from the cold, that woman is your coat against the wintry weather, she always let's you know that she's got your back and will always be there for you. She is Open-minded, in the sense that, even though she has her own ideas and opinions on things, she will listen to you and also take yours into consideration, she will share with you, she won't hold back, she'll take in your flaws, but she won't judge you, because she loves you and respects you. She is Motherly, in that she is nurturing and kind; she will look after you, make sure you are comfortable, put you first, make sure you're happy in whatever way possible, she will cater to you and make sure everything is okay. She is Attentive, in the sense that she pays attention to detail, she is observant, she knows what you like, what you do not like, she keeps important dates in mind, she makes sure nothing falls out of place, when you need something, she knows exactly what to get, because you're her man and she knows you from head to toe. And she is also Noble, in the sense that, she has the 'qualities of a Queen' as Tarrus Riley mentioned in his song 'She's Royal', she is impressive in appearance, she walks with confidence, her character is elevated and she treats you like you're her King.

A woman is powerful, yet delicate, but is also a hard worker, and a woman should be appreciated in just the way she is. We come in different forms, but we are all 'beautifully and wonderfully made' [Psalm 139:14]. No need for any 'Make-Up Bag'.

Happy International Woman's Day Ladies :)