I don't know about you, but when someone gets into a relationship, it means commitment and to be committed you jump in with both feet. I mean you can't jump in with one foot, you need to be stable to be committed and having both feet in, you're balanced, stable and able to stay focused and committed to that person you're entering a relationship with. UNFORTUNATELY, some people don't know what they want. They want a little bit of this and a little bit of that. They want their cake and to eat it too! (I know you are supposed to eat the cake, but you get my drift). These kind of people don't consider other people's feelings, when they are jumping in and out of mixed feelings...'Today, I'll feel this way, tomorrow I feel like doing something else'; right foot, left foot! And while you can't make up your mind, you're stepping on the 10 toes of the person you're involved with and while they are getting sore toes, they're trying to ignore the pain and stay on the hopes that the pain and impatience of you trying to make up your mind will end and finally they'll know where they stand with you. Obviously, you that can't make up your mind, doing left foot, right foot; you're gonna look silly, when this person you're not sure about, gets carried away by someone who DOES know what they want and doesn't mess about!
These right-foot-left-foot individuals can also be called Mr and Mrs. Luke Warms! Hot and cold. You know, like when you're having a shower, some people don't like the water too hot, neither do they want it cold, so they compromise and use both to make the water warm. This is just an example, it doesn't mean warm showers are bad. Me personally, I never did like warm showers/baths. I like my showers steaming hot, nothing less. But this isn't about showers ha, just to illustrate that some people are like luke warm showers, they want a bit of both. Dictionary.com gives 'half-hearted' as a synonym for 'lukewarm'; 'I want this...but then I want that'
If you are entering a relationship with someone, you need to be 100% sure that that is what you want. You need to be COMMITTED. You need to be DEDICATED. You need to be UNSELFISH. Be considerate! Someone's heart is not the same as a 5-year-olds toy. You can't pick it up, play with it, tamper with it, dash it across the room when you're tired of it and move on to something else. You need to treat the other person's feelings with respect and take care of them. If you know that what the other person wants, is not 'exactly' what YOU want, then BACK AWAY before you hurt them in the long run. It's better to not start what you can't finish! It'll be a waste of the other person's time. In one of my other posts I talked about wanting to know 'where I stand'. Don't leave this person to play the guessing game; games are supposed to be fun, but this game is not! 'He/She will settle down eventually (I hope)' that's what's replaying in this persons head...holding on to false hopes. That ain't right.
I know someone who is in and out of breaking up with their partner when they feel like it, and getting back together with them when it suits them. I asked them whether they love this person, they replied with 'Yeah I do...just not enough!' ¬_¬
I mean, how selfish can you get? But then I thought about this other person...why are you allowing this person to toy with your emotions, allowing them to drop you like it's hot...is not hot; and to pick you up like you're a product on the shelf. It's not on! If you're not going to love the person the way they should be loved, leave them alone and let someone else show them what they deserve. Don't get mad when someone else makes what you could've had happy...you were busy looking at the menu and weighing up your options. Time waits for no man. Don't be silly and think this person will wait for you; allow you to play your games and at the end of each day provide a pillow for you to lay your head on...nah huh!
'I had the keys to your car, she had the key to your heart, such a mistake on your part...' Jojo shows that some people don't know a good thing when it's right in front of them...they take it for granted! Being 'the other chick/man' isn't something to be happy about, no one wants to have that title. Some people don't even know they have that title; it was given to them secretly. You can't make someone your 'back up plan'.
Like I said you either jump in with both feet...or don't bother jumping in at all! :)
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