If this was not the case; I think most of us would probably be in some kind of relationship! Just being realitsic here BUT ONE reason as to why some people are reluctant to get with someone is because; fair enough they may have the greatest personality you could ask for, unfortunately, the physical attributes are just not there...
It's rude and pompous, but I'm not going to act like it ain't realistic as to how people decide on whether they want to be with that person. We all have expectations and I don't think any of us are going to change those expectations, just because 'oh he took me to dinner and theatre and paid for my cab home'. This is all nice and romantic, BUT did he or she tick the other requirements? No. We all have a type...well the majority of us I believe and when we have a type, it's hard to look in any other direction and compromise. Fair enough, you may not be the best looking person in the whole world, and you may not be the smartest or romantic human on the planet, but to one person you may be the most beautiful woman on earth or the most handsome guy they've ever seen and to another person you may be the most romantic and caring, yet intellectual person they've ever met. It works out either way. Everyone has something that works for them and God never made man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). There is that one person that will tick all the boxes you've listed and hopefully prayed to God about that will come your way. If you believe.
I'm not trying to preach to you, I'm just saying it like it is. In the words of Kiki Sheard; 'it just is what it is'. Being human, however, we tend to be a little bit stingy, but I can understand that everyone wants to be happy and not just settle for something that you are not content with. In knowing this, some people find it hard to find someone who will love them as much as they love them. And when this becomes difficult, they give up. I know someone who made it so obvious that they've given up. They tried to win this girls heart, by complimenting her, offering to take her to dinner, take her shopping, promised to treat her really well etc. At the end of the day, this girl still didn't budge and he got tired and decided to share of Facebook that he's given up on love and blah blah blah. Fair enough, it sucks. But it's not the end of the world. Yes that girl you so much loved, doesn't want you; but maybe someone else does. Some of us are in that 'We look for what's chasing us' stage, where what we look for in one person is in someone else that we are ignoring. Check one of my previous posts on that ----> http://ceedaniels.blogspot.com/2010/12/we-look-for-whats-chasing-us.html
You may be the flyest looking guy for example on campus; yes you've got swag (check), you've got a beautiful smile (check), you walk with confidence (check), your voice is as deep as Denzel Washingtons (check) but where is your charm? ( ), where is your humility? ( ), where is your respect? ( )...Oh dear. Luckily and weirdly interesting, some girls or guys don't care for those unchecked boxes, but some do and therefore, it depends on what the person is looking for as a whole. Or partly. If you're trying so hard to hook up with someone and it just isn't working 'read between the lines' and see that you're probably just not their type and swiftly move on!
Some people however, are able to look past people's faults and use it as a way that it will suit them. Yes, you're not my usual type; tall, suave and sexy, but you treat me with respect, you don't backslide and look at other girls or guys, you put me first and you have the brains of Einstein (ha), this is enough for some people, they don't have that 'physical vs mental' mentality and I'm not saying that mentality is bad, I'm just saying there are choosers and there are people who don't mind. I don't think anyone is ugly. I think everyone has their own unique beauty, after all everyone was created in God's image. So when you get those that cuss and cuss to high heavens, I think they need to look deep at themselves and see that they are not so perfect themselves. Everyone has their own imperfections to every human eye, but those imperfections are really just the Unique point. They may not be for you, but they may be for someone else. Obviously the physical is what people see first, so they are quick to judge. There's a saying that says something like 'the physcial attracts the eye, but the mind attracts the heart'. Unfortunately REALISTICALLY, people are caught up in appearance and I won't lie I am too (sometimes), even though I know I'm not perfect, I don't like to judge others and say they're not good looking or whatever, they're just not MY type...honestly it's only when I 'feel' that something for someone that I look past the appearance, but that is a RARE occurence.
I'm just saying everyone has their own preferences and you shouldn't get upset if it doesn't work out for you sometimes, eventually it will. I hope I haven't been talking gibberish and you all understand what I'm saying; but there's ALWAYS a case of physical vs mental...without FAIL.
