Wife OR WifeY.

I don't like the term wifey. I mean what do YOU define as 'WIFEY'? I got some feedback from a few guys about what they define as 'wifey', some are a bit silly, some are typical, some are just predictable. These are a few definitions I got:
1. A wifey has to be able to cook, clean, wash dishes and wash my boxers. They must also get on their knees when they are speaking to me... ¬_¬

2. A wifey is my Empress to perfection... (doesn't really explain much does it)

3. A song by Lloyd... 0_o

4. It changes with age, and life changes so the type of girls your friends are going for and what point you are at in your life. Most wifeYs don't get guys until they are around 22 and mostly guys who are interested are over 25 as they want to settle down. I prefer the term 'long term partner'... (Okay)

5. Depends on the guy, but simply put, someone you can spend the rest of your life with... (Isn't that a wife?)

6. A wifey is someone who is respectful, beautiful, cooks, but is also a freak in the bedroom... (typical)

So yeah, I dunno which one applies to you, but to be honest, I didn't quite agree with any of the responses that I got. I think the term wifey is a bit confused for some people. It's confused, because people do not actually think;is being a wifeY PERMANENT or TEMPORARY? 'Wifey' is thrown about like it's a MAJOR title to collect and to be quite frank, in my opinion it isn't. I was curious as to what Urban Dictionary said about this term and it defined it as: ' REAL Lady, Not your only but your favourite, different from them hood rat chicks.'
Erm...so you see I pointed out the 'not your only, but your favourite', this shows me that 'wifey' is honestly TEMPORARY.

When young people get into relationships, not many of them last, maybe because of distance or unfaithfulness or lack of interest or effort and in these relationships, the girl is usually titled 'wifey'. I can understand that guys may use the term 'wifey', to show that this girl is 'special', treated differently from all the rest. I think guys get excited by the term wifey, because they see a girl they are attracted to, make it their mission to get with them and because they are at their peak of happiness, they throw out that name 'wifey', but to be real some of these relationships don't even last...when you're young, you pretty much go in and out of relationships, mess about, ain't serious and go through numerous types of commitments which are short-term. Wifey is short-term. Young people tend to start getting serious, probably around University times or after finishing their degree and so now they know it's that time to find a job, a house and to settle down with, like a friend of mine said 'long-term partner'.

But now that you're grown and ready to settle down, well on the verge, doesn't it seem a bit silly to use the term 'wifey' when you've found one you potentially want to settle down with? The person you eventually find to settle down with and marry is the person you will call your WIFE. I'd rather have the title WIFE rather than wifey. So rather than use the term wifey, if you are not sure whether that girl is the one you'll settle with, don't get the girl excited by calling her 'wifey', I believe 'girlfriend' is more appropriate. It is more specific as to what the status of the girl is in your life. Wifey just seems confused. I think the Y in wifey stands for 'young' and we are not young forever!

The WIFE is your long-term partner, the one you plan on settling down with, the one you eventually plan on having kids with. The first definition I showed you from someone I know, wants a wifey to cook, clean and wash his boxers...you're going to get that poor girl to wash your boxers and then drop her like it's hot? Being a wife, the woman should cater to all her husbands needs and vise versa, at least the woman is secure in her MARRIAGE and her vows did say 'for better, for worse', so washing boxers shouldn't be a problem, but as a wifey, if you don't plan on being with the girl for the rest of your life, wash your own boxers!

I'm just saying that girls shouldn't get excited being called wifey. Wifey is temporary, Wife is permanent (or should be!)Only accept that your worth being WIFE material. Don't settle for temporary. :)

It Doesn't Take A SECOND.

This blog post is a little different. Just thought I'd touch on something so little, but SO ridiculous, I needed to write about it. It's silly, but it happens and I'm sure it annoys people as well as it annoys me!

Birthdays, Anniversaries, Graduation parties, Ceremonies, whatever...when it comes to organising these events, we need some kind of structure to help us plan them out. You need to know WHEN, WHAT, WHERE, WHO AND HOW. When you know these, you need to find a way to get it across to the people you want to invite right? Now there's the old fashioned post invites to people's addresses, but there's always the fear of the invite getting lost in the post or not knowing whether the person has received it and having to chase them up. There's also using the phone to call people up and tell them by mouth, but then there's the fear that the person listening on the other side of the phone has the details going through one ear and out the other and they're not keeping record of the 4W's and 1H! They could end up forgetting either the date or the venue, either way there's a chance they won't turn up. There's also text, but some phones are pretty dodgy and some texts end up not going through. Bit silly, but if you like travelling, you could always hop on a bus or train or if you're driving and want to spend money on petrol(a lot of money), visit people's houses and drop them the invite, ha...that's if you have that much time on your hands.

There IS an easier option that I know some of us young people like to go for. You don't have to travel, you don't have to send dodgy texts, you don't have to lick stamps and you don't have to waste minutes when the other person isn't taking note. FACEBOOK is the answer. So this social network is the answer to your event problems. Since almost everyone is on FACEBOOK, and if you're not, the message could be easily passed around, this is the easier way to get everyone on board with the event you're planning. For people to co-operate, communicate and have time to contemplate their attendance. It doesn't seem hard does it? I mean you log on and create the event; including all the necessary details you need and you begin to select all the people that you want to attend! Simples. There's an I'M ATTENDING, MAYBE ATTENDING and NOT ATTENDING button that people can select with a click of the mouse and so you'll know the numbers right? NO!

As simple as you think this option may be...it's actually DIFFICULT for people to click the friggin' mouse and RSVP. Some people don't like to co-operate and communicate with you over Facebook to make your life that much easier by letting you know whether they're coming or not...they like to keep you in the dark. What makes it more annoying is that 'MAYBE ATTENDING' option that some like to click at the last minute; I personally think they should scrap that option, because it doesn't help anyone! Yes, you may not know at that point, but try and make an effort to find out whether you ACTUALLY can or not, especially if it's an event where the person who invited you needs to know the exact number coming so they can BOOK the table on time! They told you well in advance and gave you a deadline...it's like you're given coursework and you need to submit it on a particular date in order for it to be marked so you can pass. You're not exactly going to ignore this deadline and submit it in your own time, unless you're looking to fail are you? So help a sister or brother out by RSVPing on time!

It gets to me, when they see this invite on Facebook and then holla at your BBM or through text and say 'yeah I'm coming' or 'nah I can't make it'...if you had TIME to log on to your Facebook and READ the details of the invite, I'm pretty SURE you also have time to CLICK THAT YOU'RE ATTENDING OR NOT ATTENDING...I mean, is it just me, or doesn't that make sense to you? ¬_¬ It doesn't take a SECOND. And then you reply on BBM or text saying 'OK, yeah, but can you make that clear on Facebook, so that I have a record of who is and who isn't coming...' and it's like you're talking jibberish!

It ALSO gets to me, when YOU KNOW this person has seen the invite, because they've logged in about 20 times that day and changed their status like 7 times! SURELY if you have time to change your status to something of unimportance or change your relationship status to something that's not true like 'it's complicated' when really THERE'S NOTHING HAPPENING THERE...Then you have time to RSVP, which takes less than a second. It's little things, but trust me, when you are trying to organise an event, it can be stressful trying to chase people up, it shouldn't have to be hard, it should be an easy process, but people find it hard to click that mouse!

Sooo, my friend's birthday event is coming up and she was stressing about having to chase people up and that. I just told her, look you've put a deadline as to when people need to respond, if certain people don't respond within this time frame...BOOK the table for the people who have responded and THAT'S IT! If the people who didn't respond turn up to the restaurant and find that they don't have a seat, let them stand there and think to themselves 'if only I had clicked that ATTENDING button when I was changing my status about my lifestyle!' Simples. Help us help you basically.

Some of you may be thinking 'it's not a big deal' but it can be, when people don't follow a simple instruction. It's not like we're asking you to pay for the table, we're just asking you to use one of your fingers to click the mouse and RSVP. OK so fair enough, some people are not on Facebook everyday and do not see the invite BUT we know there are other means of contacting you, and probably have...yet you STILL choose to ignore the invite.

I'm just saying it doesn't take a second...lol.