Diamond In The Rough

'You don't realise a good thing 'til it's gone'. If you're only realising that what you had was good when you decided to let it go, then you're silly. Surely, something must have attracted you for you to hold on to it for a while. But then to let it go and realise it was good, that's your loss mate. If your instincts are telling you 'there's something about this one...' then hold on and see how GREAT it becomes. Don't simply give up, because it's not how you thought it would be straight away; because you're bored and you think it's not on your 'levels'. Good things come in small packages, this is true. If you want something great, it takes time and effort to build up to something like this. For example, attaining your degree...you don't automatically get one when you sign up for University do you? If that was the case, everyone would have one by now. But no, you have to work towards that degree, achieve the right grades and graduate with a smile on your face and that degree that you worked so hard for, sweat and tears, in your hand. The same goes for relationships, once you get with someone, you don't automatically know EVERYTHING about that person, as you build the relationship, you know more and more about each other, things you never knew, things that are so wonderful, that you feel happy and privileged that you got to know thid person, because they're everything you wanted in a partner. If you have bumps and bruises along the way, it's up to you to stay and work it out and learn and improve. You'll see how much stronger your relationship is and how great it is, because you've learnt to overcome any obstacles. All that remains is LOVE.

Some guys and girls believe that they are high and mighty; the best thing that ever happened to mankind. I'm sorry to inform you, but YOU ARE NOT ALL THAT AND A BAG OF CHIPS, NO SIREEE! The best thing that ever happened to mankind is GOD and he is the only PERFECT one that I know. So those ones, that think no one is on your level, you might need to check yourself again and re-evaluate what level you'r even on. There are people who miss the opportunity to be with someone great, because their heads are so high up in the clouds; how did your head get there anyway? Re-evaluate.
Like I said, good things come in small packages; it may look small to you, not attractive, not to your liking, but you need to actually open it up and see what's inside. Don't be quick to judge another, because sometimes a great thing is hidden in disguise; and you need to open up your eyes, when you finally take your head out your ass.

Diamonds don't automatically look pretty do they? They go through a lot to become the sparkling, beautiful jewel that they are. Most natural diamonds are formed at high-pressure high-temperature conditions existing at depths of 140 to 190 kilometers (87 to 120 mi) in the Earth mantle (that's what Wikipedia says lol); I ain't no scientist, but yeah, same goes with people, life brings all sorts of pressures and problems and panic, but at the end of the tunnel there's a light, a light that we are all happy to see and we become a new person. Old things are gone, and everything is made new. You have to go through to get through. And some people don't realise their 'diamonds in the rough'.

There are people who play with people's hearts, because they are 'not sure'. Not sure whether they're pretty enough, but they're 'alright', not sure if they're ambitious, but they 'look like they're going somewhere', not sure if that person will make them look good, but 'they will do for now'. All these 'not sures', whilst you're contemplating whether to let them go or keep them, they are in the process of bettering themselves and even possible, over-taking your 'levels', because you're busy trying to make yourself look good. It's ALL ABOUT YOU INIT! Whilst you're thinking about your reputation, you're losing your diamond in the rough. You're losing a great thing. Then when you see how much they've grown, how much they've bettered themselves, how good they look, you're sat there thinking 'You don't realise a good thing 'til it's gone' -_-

It happens all the time, people are too fast to dismiss what could be so good for them, they end up searching for a long time, someone they can love, because they love themselves so much, they aren't willing to work with something that will eventually be fantastic. They want what they want NOW and if it ain't NOW then BYE. You get those exes that suddenly remember your phone number and start hollering at you, because they like what they see, they see you've done good for yourself, but someone else realised this from day one and they lose out completely.

Don't be too fast and miss the diamond in the rough that's standing right in your FACE. :)

Your Ish Is Full Of Self.

Ever had friends that you used to be soooo cool with? Like you thought it was such a joy that you met them, because you shared jokes, you went everywhere together, you understood each other LIKE THIS! You were just so close, talked to each other about any problems you had, backed each other where necessary and yeah it was just the kind of friendship that everyone wants. To be comfortable with each other and have fun, knowing you can rely on each other. Yeah, some friendships like this don't really last forever. It's strange, but it happens gradually as time goes by. One forgets where they came from. One grows out of the others friendship and goes about their way. They suddenly forget that you exist. Everyday phone calls, become 'This is the T-mobile voicemail service for...', texts happen only if necessary e.g. when they need something, and then they become just another face on your Facebook or just a random follower they happened to have added. Conversations are not conversations anymore; they are FORCE-ations. A 'hi' a little joke followed by 'lol' followed by silence. And that probably happens once a month...

Time, people and circumstances are main factors as to why friendships suddenly change. I know this, because I've had friends who to be honest are really just acquaintances now, and I've honestly given up trying to rekindle any friendships that WERE. If you ain't gonna make the effort, why should I? I loved the friendship we had before, but now it's just about yourself. I guess like I said in a previous post, certain friendships or relationships have expiry dates. And that's because their ish is full of self. It don't involve people who helped; on the way, help them become who they are. If not helped, participated in areas of their life. Were there through the good AND the bad and remained a true friend, even when they were silly. But as TIME goes by, we grow obviously, and we are surrounded by different groups of PEOPLE. People who have the power to influence us and change us from what we used to be. ENVIRONMENT is also a factor. Once we get to know different people, we find ourselves forming different circles of friends and forgetting the friends we had before. When some people leave the past, they leave the people they grew up with in the past too. Don't get me wrong, I have explained in a previous post 'Expiry Date' that some people need to be removed in order for you to progress; move on. But there are some friends that should stay in your life to keep you humbled. For you to remember where you came from. Some people are influenced by others who are loud, like to have fun 24/7, love themselves more than life itself and because they are well known, this adds to popularity and basically life seems good. You on the other hand remain humbled and lose a friend to CHANGE.

I'm not trying to make it seem DRAMATIC, but it happens. The people you once knew, aren't the same anymore and it can pretty much suck, because y'all had a good time, but now you're simply just an acquaintance where communication has been put on hold. It doesn't mean you haven't moved on in life, it just means you've remained humble and loyal and have never forgotten where you came from...which you shouldn't.

I'm just saying never forget the people who were always there for you whenever you needed them. :)

Remember

Entering with hopeful hearts,
Leaning on each other for strength,
Embracing loved ones like tomorrow may be their last,
Vicious fight with sorrowful minds,
Each one we remember today.
Never forgetting the courage and selflessness they possessed.

11.11.11 ...x