Your Ish Is Full Of Self.

Ever had friends that you used to be soooo cool with? Like you thought it was such a joy that you met them, because you shared jokes, you went everywhere together, you understood each other LIKE THIS! You were just so close, talked to each other about any problems you had, backed each other where necessary and yeah it was just the kind of friendship that everyone wants. To be comfortable with each other and have fun, knowing you can rely on each other. Yeah, some friendships like this don't really last forever. It's strange, but it happens gradually as time goes by. One forgets where they came from. One grows out of the others friendship and goes about their way. They suddenly forget that you exist. Everyday phone calls, become 'This is the T-mobile voicemail service for...', texts happen only if necessary e.g. when they need something, and then they become just another face on your Facebook or just a random follower they happened to have added. Conversations are not conversations anymore; they are FORCE-ations. A 'hi' a little joke followed by 'lol' followed by silence. And that probably happens once a month...

Time, people and circumstances are main factors as to why friendships suddenly change. I know this, because I've had friends who to be honest are really just acquaintances now, and I've honestly given up trying to rekindle any friendships that WERE. If you ain't gonna make the effort, why should I? I loved the friendship we had before, but now it's just about yourself. I guess like I said in a previous post, certain friendships or relationships have expiry dates. And that's because their ish is full of self. It don't involve people who helped; on the way, help them become who they are. If not helped, participated in areas of their life. Were there through the good AND the bad and remained a true friend, even when they were silly. But as TIME goes by, we grow obviously, and we are surrounded by different groups of PEOPLE. People who have the power to influence us and change us from what we used to be. ENVIRONMENT is also a factor. Once we get to know different people, we find ourselves forming different circles of friends and forgetting the friends we had before. When some people leave the past, they leave the people they grew up with in the past too. Don't get me wrong, I have explained in a previous post 'Expiry Date' that some people need to be removed in order for you to progress; move on. But there are some friends that should stay in your life to keep you humbled. For you to remember where you came from. Some people are influenced by others who are loud, like to have fun 24/7, love themselves more than life itself and because they are well known, this adds to popularity and basically life seems good. You on the other hand remain humbled and lose a friend to CHANGE.

I'm not trying to make it seem DRAMATIC, but it happens. The people you once knew, aren't the same anymore and it can pretty much suck, because y'all had a good time, but now you're simply just an acquaintance where communication has been put on hold. It doesn't mean you haven't moved on in life, it just means you've remained humble and loyal and have never forgotten where you came from...which you shouldn't.

I'm just saying never forget the people who were always there for you whenever you needed them. :)