SHEtionary (2): You Think You Know

I'm actually tired of men thinking they know how a woman's thought process develops. Especially during an argument. In their mind, we're just spitting gibberish and just like to argue for arguments sake. No. I don't think anyone likes to argue; if you do, and that's how you get your kick, then okay - thumbs up to you.

If we pick an argument and it's about something you've done, it probably means it's not the first time you've done it and so we're tired of letting it go and have decided to bring it up. Yes, we're going to stick to the point we're arguing about, because that's what it's about. We want to try and get to the root of the problem and then maybe get to that stage where we can discuss how we're going to avoid it happening again.

Now because some of you are just stubborn, think you're right regardless - it goes through one ear and out the other and you end up interpreting what we're saying into rubbish. To you, we've talked about Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday, when really we're still on Monday, but you're refusing to take our point seriously. So yes we're going to go off on a tangent and refer back to previous times you've committed this thing that she's arguing about. It doesn't mean we've accepted defeat, it doesn't mean we've realised that we don't have a point - it simply means that since you're not getting it, we've gotta go back to square one and collate evidence. It's like being in court. You can't come and argue a case without any evidence to back it up. You'll look like an idiot in front of the jury who have probably made up their minds already - the guy. Since it looks like her point isn't going anywhere, and you're there busy smirking, of course my girl is going to bring up the past, because you've provoked her and you've just gone and pissed her off at the same time.

Then when you do bring up the past, it looks like you've gone and hit a nerve. Then they start arguing back - ooh, it looks like you've finally gotten their attention. Fair enough, these incidents should have been brought up there and then, but I do believe, there isn't a difference to bringing it up then and bringing it up now - your reaction will still be the same.

Ego is a dangerous thing. You gotta be right, they gotta be right, everyone just wants to be right. Both parties play a part in making the argument escalate. No one looks sillier than the other. So this whole 'women like to bring up the past every time you argue' nonsense, maybe you should make sure there isn't a past to bring up every damn time.